Vows, Gondolas, and Jellyfish

The wedding day dawned bright…& rainy. Again, not heavy, drenching downpours; merely intermittent light drizzles, with tantalizing tastes of blue skies & sun, just enough to raise hopes. I joined my aunt & uncle for breakfast at 8:00, along with a couple of other wedding guest, & we were treated to a lovely meal of fresh fruit, homemade bread, blueberry/banana pancakes, & wonderful chocolate filled croissants.

Since I didn’t need to be at Edgewater until 1:30 (a last minute rehearsal with brother B- who made just in time for dinner the night before) I enjoyed a leisurely morning reading & napping before getting dressed for the celebration. I showed up promptly & we quickly went through the set one last time before heading to the dining room. As I arrived, the decision was made to move the wedding inside, so there a flurry of activity going on; I wisely found an out-of-the-way seat inside the lodge. While others ranted, ran around, & generally freaked out, this is what I did:


Every so often, someone looking frantic would wander over, have a seat to catch their breath, & get caught up watching this lace shawl form itself on my needles; each person would eventually walk away calm & quiet- I like to think this was my contribution to the day (beside singing, of course.)  

We sang our songs, some people actually listened, & then the ceremony started (on time, no less!). Once the bride walked past, I elbowed my way through the crowd of standing guests to take my seat with the family, so I was able to witness everything up close. I’ve put several shots in the photo album “Canada Trip” (on my MSN space “meg’s garden“), but I wanted to share my two favorites here.


This is “Reverend” Mike, my brother’s friend from college & the wedding’s the officiator; I think he is quite fetching with his bouquets. Actually, he is providing an important service; in Canada, a marriage commissioner must attend each wedding & “signing the documents” is a part of the ceremony; Rev. Mike is assisting the bride & her witness while they sign the certificate. This is my favorite photo of the day:


 

I love the huge smile on my brother’s face, while his serenely smiling bride looks on; it was a funny, touching day & well worth the hassles to get there.

The reception was wonderful, with great food (salmon or pesto-stuffed chicken), humorous toasts, shared memories, & lots of music & dancing. The weather even cooperated long enough for the pictures to be taken outside by the lake, while the guests snacked on hors d’oeuvres & searched for a peek of the glacier on the mountain. The festivities broke up around 11:00, with the “younger” crowd heading down to Whistler Village to party into the wee hours, while the wiser ones toddled off to sleep.

Sunday morning, after another delicious meal (Eggs Benedict & almond paste filled croissants) I checked out of Cedar Springs & drove over to collect my sister for the ride back to Vancouver. The lodge had been filled by the wedding party, so the dining room looked like a family breakfast (except for the assorted hang-over’s); while H packed up & I enjoyed another cup of tea, D told us that he had arranged for anyone who wanted a little adventure to take the Gondola ride up Whistler Mountain. H  & I decided to take up the challenge & headed into the village; the was a huge mountain-biking event going on that weekend & there were hundreds of riders- from 8 to 80 years old- barreling down the mountain side, covered in mud.

It was a 20 minute trip up the mountain, traveling through the low-lying clouds & intermittent sprinkles; arriving at the top (but not the summit- that was closed due to weather concerns) we were greeted with some remaining snow & a pretty brisk, cold wind. We walked about a half mile up the trail, which was about all I could manage, given the altitude & my wonky knees/hip, & surveyed some of the interpretive displays & construction plans for Whistler, which will be hosting the 2010 Winter Olympics. On the way back down, we saw several wedding guests & family members heading up the mountain- turns out we were the first ones out the gate that day.

The drive only took an hour & a half this time, so H & I had some time to do a little exploring before we had to be at the wedding banquet being held by W’s extended family. We found Queen Elizabeth Park & spent a pleasant couple of hours wandering around the gardens & paths in the drizzle, even stopping to witness the tail-end of another wedding.

Then, it was off to the last official event of the weekend, the traditional Chinese banquet, hosted by the bride’s father. It was literally 12 courses, each table being served by a single waiter who dished out small portions to every person; there was soup, fruit, salad, crab claw puffs, noodles, rice, duck, pork, fish, even jellyfish with vegetables (I tried a little piece, which had the texture between a gummy worm & a pickle). The funny part is that every dish that was brought out, the waiter made a big ceremony of arranging it just so my step-dad could take a picture. I lost track of every dish, particularly when the toasts started- wine, brandy, & Grand Marnier flowed freely as the couple, the families, & the ancestors were all toasted… in Chinese. Yep, after “Hello, thank you for coming” the rest of the evening with conducted in Chinese- W’s father’s primary language- so W served as interpreter for the whole group. Mother gave her only speech the whole weekend, translated for the others by one of the younger boys, when she presented D & W with a little gift- a blue & brown baby outfit, which followed the wedding theme of “Mountains & Water”. No, they were not making any announcements, but speculation began before they even said “I do” as to how long before there is another family member, myself included.

Thus ended my time with my family- three days of parties & eating, with no arguments, hurt feelings, or disasters. Must be a record.


 

Next time: All by myself

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Nothing like easing into a vacation

Sorry it has taken so long to get back to the story; I went back to work yesterday & to say that I’m buried in paperwork would be only a slight overstatement. In reality, it wasn’t as ghastly as I had originally feared; but then again, errors have a sneaky tendency to crop up at later, inconvenient dates.Let me see; I left off at my barely legal entry into Canada on Thursday morning. I had planned on having the rest of the day to myself, exploring Vancouver, & made a start in Gastown; I strolled through some of the shops, saw the famous Steam Clock, & spent an hour in Dr. Sun Yat Sen Chinese Garden before being summoned to dinner by my Mother. She seemed to be concerned that I wouldn’t be able to find the house where my sister was staying all by myself the following morning, despite my assurances that I directions, so it was decided I would meet her & Michael, my step-dad, there before going to dinner (how this helped, I’m not exactly sure, but I’ve learned not to question too much.) The next four days consisted of a lot of family, food, & rain. It was a constant light rain, which raised the stress level of the bride & groom, since the ceremony was to be outside; fortunately, the temperature was pleasant & the rain made the air smell wonderful. My sister & I left Vancouver by 8:30 Friday morning & had a pleasant drive, where she filled me in on the latest in her world. is a free spirit, who lives in Kauai, camping out for the past 10 years in Kalalau Valley & living off the land. She hikes out of the Valley periodically (8 hours each way) to buy or trade for goods, do a little work if she needs cash, & to contact the family, then comes Stateside every couple of years. Up until 4 weeks ago, she shared her life & camp with her “man” E, but received an unexpected blow when he took up with someone else on her last trek out to settle travel arrangements for the wedding. She was just coming out of the state of shock, so I was able to be a safe sounding board for her broken heart; Mother isn’t able to deal with emotional issues & simply stated that E had been “dismissed” from the family. Anyway, we arrived at Edgewater Lodge before 11:00 & I had time to do some practicing with Mark, my aunt’s friend who plays the ukulele & harmonica (my youngest brother, B , who plays the guitar, didn’t make it in time) before the official rehearsal. We ended up selecting four songs to do before the ceremony-

The 59th St Bridge Song (Feeling Groovy),

 Dream (Everly Brothers),

In my Life (the Beatles),

 & Sea of Love;

one vocal for the processional- Over the Rainbow- & then an instrumental version of Feeling Groovy as the bride walked down the aisle. If you are wondering what input the bride & groom had in this process- your guess is as good as mine; the only song I know for sure my brother chose was the Beatles’ song, because he gave me a CD with mixed songs (& I do mean mixed – from Johnny Cash to Bob Dylan to the Beach Boys) the week before. We are dealing with a couple of really laid back people, so I don’t think it mattered too much one way or another- they trusted the “experts” to make it sound good. Afterwards, we all trekked down to locate Wildwood Raquet Club, the restaurant for the dinner being hosted that evening by our parents, then I peeled off to explore the Whistler Marketplace. It was like wandering through an Alpine village, with winding pedestrian-only lanes & Whistler Mountain as a backdrop; I got lost for about two hours before going over to Cedar Springs Lodge, the B & B where I was staying. I checked into my room just in time for tea (homemade banana nut bread) & then took a little nap before meeting everyone for dinner. The dinner was awesome- a buffet with salad, fresh rolls, red potatoes, mixed vegetables, steak & salmon, & then cheesecake or chocolate mousse cake with fresh berries, plus an open bar & wine at every table. Mother had life-sized photo cutouts of D & W all over the room, plus pictures on the tables of each family over the years & those who were missing or gone; the popular activity (after sufficient alcohol was partaken) was having silly pictures taken with the cut outs. Michael, as both best man & father of the groom, gave a humorous speech (fortunately lacking in graphic medical humor- he is a urologist & surgeon, & likes to joke about his work) & Mother was particularly restrained, simply greeting everyone & thanking them for making the trip up to Canada for this event. I learn later that D’s only request of Mother for the weekend was that she was calm & didn’t give any speeches (you might remember that our Mother is a highly functional bi-polar, but does tend to get wound up over big events.) I think D & W were surprised at the number of people who came for the wedding- there were 25 members of the immediate families & around 50 or so friends of both of them, some coming from as far away as Hong Kong & Dubai. I called it a night around 10:00, driving back to the B & B with my uncle Jim & his wife Elizabeth from New Mexico, who were staying at the same place; we had a brief nightcap (tea & decaf coffee) & quiet visit before going to bed, falling asleep to the sound of rain against the leaves. (I will be posting some pictures as soon as I get to sit down at my own computer- I’ve had commitments every evening since I’ve been home)

Next time: Vows & Gondolas  

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A rocky start

Okay, okay! I’ve had some rest & finished the book, so now I’m ready to be social again. It was most definitely an eventful trip, full of sightseeing, encounters with relatives, & surprisingly little emotional upheaval despite a wedding, a break-up, mental illness, & the blend of two culturally diverse families.

But first- an anecdote, a cautionary tale of being too prepared: the night before I left, I was having trouble sleeping- kept going over things in my head- so I finally got up around 2:00, remembering that I hadn’t left an itinerary for the guys or a list of things the Sam needed to take care of while I was away (if it’s not in writing, he’ll forget). I went to the computer to type it up, needing to go on the internet to get some of the addresses & phone numbers; while I was there, I figured I’d best print up another copy of my passport application status page, in case the one I had got lost or damaged. That’s right- my passport didn’t arrive, although I submitted the application 14 weeks prior to my trip (& still isn’t here :( )- so in order to get back in the country I needed my photo id & application status page. So, anyway, I’m on the State Dept website, double checking to see if I need anything else, where I’m directed to make sure I comply to the entry requirements of the country I’m entering. Big mistake. It’s 2:30 am & I’m leaving the country in 5 hours- but I look anyway & see in big, bold letters;

 “Passport or gov’t issued id with certified copy of birth certificate”.

Which is in my safe deposit box.

At the bank.

Which opens at 9:00.

An hour after I take off.

There has to be a mistake; how could I have missed that? I call the airline carrier that I’ll be flying- she reads the same thing I did. I call the State Dept hotline- they are closed for another two hours. I call the airport customs dept- they tell me the US requirements, but can’t be certain of the Canadian regulations. I call the airline carrier that I booked with- she says there shouldn’t be any problem- just bring what I have & plead ignorance if they fuss on the other end. Great. A fifty-fifty chance of being deported on my first visit to Canada. This will be a favorite story in my family for years to come, especially as I’m acknowledged as the smart one.

I fill Chris in on the situation & formulate a plan as we drive to the airport; my youngest brother won’t be arriving in Vancouver until 5:00 that evening, so Chris will drive back home, get my birth certificate, & go into work. If I have a problem at customs in Canada, I’ll call him- he will meet my brother & give him my paperwork, which he’ll bring along to get me out of the Canadian version of the Pokey. It’s all good. Either that, or go home, get it myself & drive to Vancouver. Not my favorite idea, but I can’t miss my brother’s wedding- who knows when one of them will ever do something so conventional again!

So, I get to the airport, hike a quarter mile into the terminal through a maze of construction detours, & check in at the counter; my paper work is checked, stamped, & boarding pass issued. No questions, no problems; maybe this ignorance thing will work. I have to wait a couple of hours & manage to get a little sleep before boarding the flight; two hours later, I’m landing in Vancouver, & my stomach starts doing the merengue. While I weaving my way through the long queue at customs, I start getting the cold sweats- I’m certain that I looked terribly guilty & any minute, sirens & lights will go off & armed officials will be surrounding me. Finally, it is my turn; I hand the woman all my papers- she squints up at me, unsmiling, then asks me the purpose of my visit. I say I’m here for a wedding, then some sightseeing- I babble a bit about my first trip alone, my brother getting married for the first time at 39, that I’m originally from Texas- you know, stupid nervous rambling. Next thing I know, she’s handing me my papers & pointing to the left, saying “You go over there” & I’m done.

Wow- that was easy. I promptly find a bathroom (nerves affect me that way) & then call Chris to tell him everything is fine. He answers on the second ring, listens quietly, then says, “That’s good news, because I can’t find your birth certificate.”

WHAT?

“Are you sure? It’s in the envelope marked Birth Certificates.”

“I have the entire box here (he was still at the bank) & I’ve looked through everything- it’s not here.”

Another wave of cold sweats- this could have been soooo bad; I apologize to Chris for the wasted trip & tell him not to worry about it- I’ll find it when I get home. After I retrieve my suitcases, I head off into another maze of construction detours (is every terminal on the west coast of North American under construction?) to find the car rental desk & then my hotel for the night. It isn’t until a few hours later, while lying down, trying to rid myself of a stress-induced headache, that I remember where my birth certificate is located.

I had to submit it with my passport application.

I don’t think I’ll tell Chris that part.   

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Yaaawwwn…

Your Travel Personality Is: Easygoing


When you travel, you’re looking for a lot of downtime. Vacations are your chance to recoup.
All you need is a scenic spot and plenty of time on your hands. You’ll figure out the rest.
You’re not one to make lots of plans when you travel. You just follow whatever path seems right.

What’s Your Travel Personality?

Hey, kids  Tired 

Yes, I’m back & I’m sleepy, so it’s off to bed; I’ll be back tomorrow with the first installment.

G’night.

 Owl 2 

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What I really wanted to say

“Hello. You have reached the desk of Meg, accounting specialist extraordinaire & keeper of the sanity. So sorry to have missed your call- if you run fast, you may be able to catch a glimpse of me in the parking lot, but I would suggest you don’t allow any valuable items or vital limbs to drift between my car & the exit.

As I have blown this Popsicle Stand for the next 12 days, I wish you luck on reaching anybody to assist you; but if you press 210, 407, or any other random combination of three numbers, you may luck out & reach a live person who may or may not know what they are talking about, before having your call transfered back to this message.

After the tone, please leave your name, your phone number, & your detailed plea for help, which I should be able to listen to within 3 to 6 weeks of my return, depending on 1) the size of the pile of crucial, yet uncompleted work to be done, 2) the number of errors made or missed that need to be corrected before the end of the month, or 3) the dubious supposition I will actually return to this loony bin after tasting freedom. Thank you for calling & have a lovely day.”

 Doofus 


 

Well kids, I’m off to British Columbia tomorrow morning at the uncivilized hour 4:30 am (leaving the house, not taking off) & steadfastly avoiding the telephone to get my last minute preparation done. I don’t know what kind of internet access I’ll run across, but I will do my best to check in to see how you all are holding up in my absence. Ta-ta! 

Map 

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Everyday life






You Should Own a Beagle


Low maintenance, very friendly, and sturdy.

What Kind of Dog Should You Have?





Funny, this; we’ve talked about having a beagle, in the myriad of “Someday, when pigs fly & dogs cease to smell, I wouldn’t mind having…” discussions over the years. I’m definitely not a dog person, yet I enjoy watching the kennel show championships that are televised on the “Animal Planet” & will do research on breeds that catch my eye. Go figure.

Lots of little things are happening around the garden- more along the lines of normal, everyday events, then anything momentous or highly entertaining. Chris is working long hours, which is de rigueur for this time of year; pretty well sucks sour pickles, as I am getting ready to head off for a week, but the money will come in handy to pay off my gad-about. He actually had to do a road call to Yosemite Friday afternoon- a 3 hour drive at the best of times- in a motor home, on high, winding roads; Sam & I both politely declined accompanying him- the very thought of the drive made me feel car sick. We elected instead to have burritos at the taqueria & go see the new “Harry Potter” movie, which, while only skimming the surface of the story, was quite good. I spent the rest of the evening listening to my dear son crow over the fact that the day our pre-ordered copy of “Harry Potter & the Deathly Hallows” arrives at our door (usually by 9:00 am), I will be off in the wilds of Canada watching my brother get married, unable to start the book until I return home. *grrr*

Saturday morning, I headed off to the mall for a little shopping; with all the walking I intend on doing, I felt it was prudent to buy another pair of shoes, as well as a couple of long-sleeve shirts, since the forecast for Vancouver/Whistler area is mid 50’s to low 60’s & rain likely. I also invested in a new purse- my current one is looking a bit ratty- & a large package of batteries for my camera; don’t want to miss any good shots!

While I was off indulging in some retail diversion, the guys went over to donate blood- Sam for the very first time. Chris is a member of the “Gallon Club”- he has type O-positive, so he regularly donates- & Sam has been itching to go along since he turned sixteen. I tell you- that boy was so proud of himself & sported the bandage until Sunday afternoon; now he’s recruiting his buddies to all go together in a couple of months. I’m glad he has taken to this; I had to give up donating a couple years ago- my veins will not cooperate & it usually takes at least three tries to get one that flows, even just drawing for blood tests at the doctor. I try once a year, & usually end up getting sent home with a polite “Thanks anyway- maybe next time.”

Well, my lists are growing, along with my travel folder; tomorrow is my last day of work for 12 lovely days. Wednesday will be spent getting my nails done, packing my suitcase, & stocking the larder for the guys, so they will hopefully eat at home while I’m away. I’m debating whether or not to go to dance class tonight; it’s been a couple of months since I’ve gone & will be a couple of weeks before I’ll be back, but with adjudication looming the first weekend in September, I feel like I need to get back in the swing. I will check in again before I head off- ciao!

 

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Friday Feast #1


You Would Be a Pet Cat


Independent and aloof, you don’t like to be dependent on anyone.And as for other people, you can take them or leave them. You often don’t care.You live your life by your own rules. And you have deep motivations that no one truly understands.Why you would make a great pet: You’re not needy or greedy… unlike other four legged friends.Why you would make a bad pet: You’re not exactly running down to greet people at the door
What you would love about being a cat: Agility and freedom

What you would hate about being a cat: Being treated like a dog by clueless humans

What Kind of Pet Would You Be?

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Appetizer
What is your favorite fruit?

This one is tough, especially this time of year when there are so many different fresh fruits available. If I have to choose one, I guess it would be watermelon; I can’t pass it up & will make a meal out of a hunk. 

Soup
Who is someone you consider as a great role model?

My Grandmother Lucy; she lived her life on her own terms- creative, individual, & outspoken- had a natural, deep relationship with God, & made serving others a lifestyle without short-changing herself.

Salad
If you were to spend one night anywhere within an hour of your home, where would you choose?

Another tough one; we live within an hour of many awesome places here in Central California. I’m torn- either the Queen Anne Hotel in San Francisco, or The Foxes B&B in Sutters Creek.

Main Course
Name something you do too often.

Procrastinate- my absolute worst failing

Dessert
Fill in the blank: I really like ___________ because ____________.

I really like to spend time exploring parks & gardens, because it helps me to quiet my mind & refresh my spirit.

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Hello world!

Hello, folks of Word Press! I’ve just imported my posts from Blogger & will be taking this new page for a test drive. Take a look around, have a glass of ice tea, & if the urge strikes, feel free to pull some weeds :)

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101 Things About Me

Since I started blogging three months ago today, I figured it was time to tell you about me. So, I humbly submit my version of “101 Things About Lil’ Old Me”

  1. I arrived in this world April 1963
  2. I was born in Austin, Texas
  3. My family are long-time Texans; Dad’s family arrived in 1840, Mother’s in 1665
  4. My older brother & I are the first generation to be raised outside of Texas
  5. My parents divorced when I was a year old
  6. Yes, it did effect my relationships with men
  7. Mother & I moved to California in 1965
  8. Dad & my brother moved to New Mexico
  9. I would like to visit Austin, since I have no memory of it
  10. The name I answer to is not meg
  11. meg is an acronym of my legal name
  12. I like my natural name- I just like the anonymity better
  13. I have 3 brothers & 2 sisters
  14. I’m the second oldest
  15. But everyone treats me like the oldest
  16. I was always a serious child
  17. My dad said I was born an old lady
  18. I’ve gotten younger as the years go by
  19. I have Chris to thank for that
  20. I’m really a shy person
  21. People laugh at me when I say that
  22. I’ve been known to talk the hind leg off a donkey
  23. But only around people I know
  24. I have a dry sense of humor
  25. I can also be very sarcastic
  26. I don’t think this is always a good thing
  27. But it is how I’m wired
  28. I grew up in Berkeley, with my mom, step-dad & 3 younger siblings
  29. No, we were not hippies
  30. I do remember the student riots & smell of tear gas
  31. We were rather well-to-do
  32. We children weren’t aware of this
  33. I was the only one of my siblings to go to public school
  34. My step-dad & I didn’t get along when I was growing up
  35. When I was 16, I moved to Kansas to live with my Dad & brother
  36. It was a good thing- I didn’t know my Dad very well
  37. I met my first husband 3 months after I moved to Kansas
  38. Yes- I’ve been married twice
  39. I met both my husbands in the same year- Chris in Feb & the other in Dec
  40. I got married when I was 19
  41. It wasn’t a bad marriage, just not a good one
  42. We had 2 children- Robb & Jessica
  43. My first husband is a nice man, but not the right one for me
  44. I was divorced a week before I turned 25
  45. I married Chris 4 months & 10 days later
  46. It was the biggest risk I’ve ever taken
  47. It was the best decision I ever made
  48. We lived with my mother-in-law for the first 18 months of our marriage
  49. Fortunately, I love my mother-in-law
  50. I raised my daughter & my ex-husband raised Robb
  51. It was the most difficult choice I ever made
  52. I still second guess myself about that decision
  53. Ultimately, I think it was the right one- Robb is a terrific man
  54. It took me 2 years to get pregnant with Sam
  55. I had a lot of problems during that pregnancy
  56. I gave birth- naturally- to a 10lb 1oz, 23 inch long baby
  57. We wanted another child, but the doctor didn’t think it would be a good idea
  58. I didn’t think it was such a good idea either
  59. I love my children, but sometimes I think I should have stuck to cats
  60. I have naturally curly hair
  61. It’s short, dark brown & liberally sprinkled w/white
  62. I made peace with my hair a long time ago
  63. I’m the shortest one in my family
  64. I’m the only fat one in my family
  65. I’m also the only one in my family without high cholesterol
  66. I love to dance
  67. I’m a pretty good dancer
  68. I love to sing
  69. I’m pretty good at that, too
  70. I studied French in grade school
  71. I studied Spanish in high school & college
  72. While I can understand a little French & Spanish, I speak only English
  73. This is one of my biggest regrets
  74. I have a math brain- I think in numbers & patterns
  75. My husband & daughter don’t understand this- they think I’m weird
  76. My sons do understand this- they think I’m cool
  77. I am intelligent & educated, but I don’t consider myself an intellectual
  78. I graduated with a 3.89 GPA
  79. I got A’s & B’s without too much effort
  80. I have a photographic memory
  81. But the lens is getting cloudy
  82. I enjoy learning
  83. I would like to finish a Bachelor’s degree, but I can wait
  84. I’ve always had an active imagination
  85. I entertain myself while walking with daydreams, mostly about winning the Lotto
  86. Since I rarely remember to play, I can only daydream
  87. My favorite color is green, but I rarely wear it
  88. My style is rather static- skirts, slacks, loose tops & flats
  89. My daughter thinks I look frumpy
  90. She’s probably right, but I like being comfortable
  91. I need to lose weight
  92. My ankles pop & crack every time I walk
  93. I have osteoarthritis
  94. I mostly ignore it, but it’s getting harder
  95. I really want to travel
  96. I am a born-again Christian
  97. I have been since I was 21
  98. I was raised in a family of atheists/agnostics
  99. My grandmother taught me about God

100. I’m the black sheep of the family

101. That’s okay with me

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